7 things you should absolutely know about your partner

How well do you know your partner? Sure, you know their favorite color or how they take their coffee. But some things really matter. For that, you have to go beyond these surface-level details.

Do you know how your partner expresses affection? What about their biggest fear? Here are some essential answers worth learning and remembering about the person you love. You don’t necessarily need to ask these questions, but quietly observe.

What makes them feel loved?

Here’s something people hardly know about love: Not everyone feels love the same way. If you melt while being kissed on your forehead, your partner may crave touch. Some may find being respected a form of love.

For others, words may matter. So it's important to know what makes your partner feel genuinely seen and adored.

Their love language

Love languages are often categorized into five: words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, physical touch, and gifts. Of course, there are things beyond this list. But knowing your partner’s love language is crucial for the relationship to progress. Isn’t it important to give love in a way they can actually receive it?

Their non-negotiables

Just as in life, you must also know their list of non-negotiables when it comes to a romantic relationship.

For example, some people simply cannot compromise on honesty. Others value respect. Some may prefer emotional security, or perhaps transparency. Knowing your partner’s non-negotiables will help you navigate the relationship more effectively.

Their core values

Values can either build or wreck your relationship. If your values don’t align with your partner's, life is going to get difficult. Understanding their core values is crucial.

You must know this upfront. Know whether they are just nice or really kind. Try to find out if loyalty is something they live by.

What hurts them deeply

We all have hidden wounds. When you are in a relationship, you don’t want to press the wrong button. So, it is important to know what could hurt your partner. It could be feeling dismissed, comparison, or a failed promise. By knowing what breaks their heart, you will be able to handle them better.

You will know when to be gentle, regardless of the situation.

What scares them

Do you know what scares your partner the most? Is it abandonment, loss of control, or failure? You don’t necessarily have to fix their fears, but by knowing them, you can prevent accidents. You don’t want to be the reason, right? Knowing your partner’s fears will also help you understand how to make them safe.

What makes them emotionally safe

Your partner may be the epitome of courage in the outside world. But that doesn’t guarantee emotional safety. In fact, emotional safety is the very foundation of a healthy relationship. Your partner should feel safe enough to share with you the version of themselves that the world hasn’t seen yet. And they have to feel safe about it. It could happen, only if the zone is free of judgment and is really safe. Be that person for your partner.