"70+ injections, 100+ hospital visits, and...": Woman shares the truth about her IVF journey and what women actually need during it

For many women, becoming a mother is often imagined as a smooth joyful journey. A simple series of moments, from a positive pregnancy test to sharing the news with loved ones and preparing for a new chapter of life.

But for thousands struggling with infertility, the reality is very different. It's filled with constant clinic visits, medicines that dictate daily routines, months of waiting, and an emotional rollercoaster that few people understand.One such woman recently shared her IVF experience in a deeply personal post on Instagram. Her post struck a chord with women everywhere. More importantly, it has sparked an important conversation about what women going through IVF really need: not sympathy, not advice, but understanding.

In her post, Nilofer wrote, “70+ injections, 30+ ultrasounds, 100+ doctor visits, countless bruises, and I've lost track of how many pills I've swallowed. IVF is a long, lonely road.” Infertility is still one of the most misunderstood struggles a woman can go through. People around her may have good intentions, but the emotional toll often stays hidden. Nilofer's post puts a spotlight on something many women live through quietly.

A path she never thought she'd walk

Nilofer recalls a time when IVF felt something out of reality from her own life. "During my college days, I'd walk past so many fertility and IVF clinics in South Delhi on my way to class. I never thought I'd end up sitting inside one myself someday," she said. That single line says so much. Most of us grow up believing parenthood will just happen naturally whenever we're ready for it. When that doesn't pan out, many women suddenly find themselves in unfamiliar territory.

And once you're in that world, everything starts to revolve around appointments, medication schedules, and hospital visits.

“IVF is not just a medical procedure”

One of the most striking parts of Nilofer's post is how she frames IVF as something far beyond a clinical treatment. "IVF isn't only a medical procedure. It takes over your calendar with appointments. You end up giving yourself injections. The waiting rooms start to feel heavier than they actually are."

For many women in treatment, everyday life gets reshaped. Travel gets postponed, work hours get rearranged, social plans become difficult to execute.She also touched on the emotional ups and downs that come with the territory. "It's hope tangled with fear. Positivity that quickly turns into overanalyzing everything," she wrote. For a lot of women, the physical side is just one piece of the puzzle, the emotional uncertainty can wear you down just as much, if not more.

The loneliness nobody mentions

Even with a strong support system of family, husband, and friends, Nilofer admitted that IVF still feels like a lonely experience. "I was fortunate that my family, husband, and friends were there for me however they could be. But at the end of the day, this is something you go through mostly alone."That sense of being alone, even when you're not, is something many women in this situation describe. "Nobody else is inside your body.

Nobody else can quiet your mind at 2 a.m. Nobody else feels exactly what you're feeling, physically or emotionally," she said. It's probably why many women relate to her words as they show the private struggles that often hide behind everyday smiles, work calls, family functions, and Instagram stories.

What instead of sympathy a woman needs?

In her post she wrote, "I'm putting this out there not for sympathy, but because if even one woman reading this feels a little less alone or a little more understood, then it was worth sharing."

She also brought up something almost every woman going through fertility treatment deals with: being given advice nobody asked for. "Please skip the unsolicited advice. Just check in on how we're doing, and ask before offering suggestions," she said.

Her point is simple, yet it matters. Support isn't always about offering a fix, sometimes it's just about letting someone be honest about what they're going through. Women don't need pity, they need to be understoodThe heart of Nilofer's message is a reminder that women going through infertility show incredible strength, day after day. "Don't see us as victims, we're fighters," she wrote. For so many women, IVF isn't just a medical journey: it's a test of patience, strength, and emotional well being. And maybe the best thing the people around them can do isn't to offer another solution: it's to simply understand. Because sometimes, being heard means so much more than being given advice.