Emotional Intelligence in Parenting: How to Raise Emotionally Balanced Children

Do you ever feel like you do everything for your child, yet they don’t value you?You pack their lunch, manage their classes, juggle work and family and still face tears, tantrums or resistance.

As they grow you help them with studies, education, marriage, life and yet you feel it is not enough! The dilemma faced by lots of adults whether to even have children or not.

The truth is, parenting today isn’t about doing more for your kids. It’s about connecting deeper. That’s where Emotional Intelligence (EQ) in parenting makes all the difference.Why Emotional Intelligence Matters in Parenting ?Emotions are the core of human existence. From the first stirrings of life to the choices we make every day, emotions drive us.

Emotions cause neurochemical changes that trigger physical changes and movement of the human body. In parenting, the emotions flowing between you and your child can decide whether your home feels like a battleground or a safe space of trust and growth.Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is simply the ability to understand the emotion behind an action, reaction or behaviour. While the karmic relation between parents and children is naturally such that causes each to trigger the other, the only respite is increasing emotional intelligence.

Mastering emotions is the secret sauce to raising children who are confident, empathetic, and balanced.Raising a successful child starts with raising an emotionally secure one.3 Simple EQ Habits Parents Can Start Today1. Practice Active ListeningHear your child without judgment or interruption allowing him/her to express without any fear.

2. Ask Open-Ended QuestionsMove beyond yes/no. Ask: “What does that make you feel?” to uncover hidden emotions.3. Hold Space, Don’t React When your child vents, don’t rush to scold or fix. Just be present with no judgement and allow release of repressed emotions.And then? Repeat. Over and over.Children who feel truly heard grow into emotionally resilient adults who know how to handle life’s challenges.True Client Case : Mahesh & Tara (names changed)Take Mahesh, a father determined to make his daughter Tara the best at everything; school, tennis, music. But Tara resists. She cries before every class and Mahesh grows frustrated. Sometimes he bribes, sometimes he scolds, and afterwards feels guilty and justifies his actions internally. The cycle continues!

Why? Because Mahesh was raised in strict discipline. He was never really heard.

And now, unknowingly, he expects Tara to perform instead of express just like him. But here’s the shift: Tara’s tears aren’t manipulation. They’re her way of saying, “See me. Hear me.”With Emotional Intelligence, Mahesh could break this cycle of generational trauma. By listening without judgment, asking instead of ordering and responding instead of reacting, he could help Tara feel secure, valued, and free to grow.By: Meheck Mukherjee ( International coach, Author & Founder of Aikya oness program )