Should I stay in the US or accept a package of 1.2 crore in Bangalore? Women asks Reddit and this is what people advise her

In today’s world, opportunities and family responsibilities often pull us in opposite directions, because of which taking difficult decisions can be incredibly emotional and complex.This is especially true for immigrants who build a life abroad but feel the tug of home getting stronger with time. One such story has gone viral online after a woman of Indian origin, currently residing in the United States, turned to Reddit with a heartfelt dilemma.A 32-year-old woman of Indian origin, currently settled in Denver, USA, asked the Reddit community whether she should consider relocating to Bengaluru for a job offer of ₹1.2 crore per year.

She wanted to be closer to her parents

Her main motivation wasn’t the paycheck but the desire to be closer to her aging parents in India. Despite visiting them annually, she confessed to feeling increasingly distressed by the visible toll of time on her parents. “My family is in India, my parents are getting old, every time I visit, I see them getting older. Time feels like slipping away. Not being able to care for them is the worst feeling of all,” she wrote.

While the offer seemed financially stable, she expressed concerns about lifestyle changes and quality of life in India. “Every time I visit India, I get frustrated with how rude/angry people are everywhere. Especially on roads, I could never drive there,” she added.

Social media response

The Reddit post received mixed reactions, with many chiming in based on their own experiences of moving back or continuing life abroad.One user, sharing personal experience, offered a stark comparison: “As someone who makes 1.2 cr in Bangalore and lives a fairly sheltered life in a top end community, with choicest weekend trips in South India, two trips to Himalayan mountains, 1 international vacation and 2-3 trips to West Coast US in a year, NO.

Denver is better imo,” the user commented.

They further pointed out issues like “pollution, safety concerns as a woman, the constant lecherous stares, crumbling infrastructure, crawling traffic, low trust society where everyone is out to scam you,” warning that it might not be worth the trade-off.Another user said, “Bangalore isn’t the greatest city to move. So much population, traffic and competition.”However, the emotional aspect of the post resonated deeply with others, based upon the universal challenge faced by many in the diaspora, juggling personal aspirations abroad with emotional responsibilities at home.

However, whether she takes the job or not is still not confirmed but the woman’s story is a true example of the inner conflict that often comes with privilege, love, and distance.