Banksying is the latest ghosting-inspired trend in dating

What is Banksying

Ghosting has long been part of the dating world, but it’s slowly being pushed aside by a new trend known as Banksying. In this version, the person doesn’t just vanish quietly — they leave with a dramatic twist.

It could be a surprise message, a meaningful object, or even an emotional post. And then, just like that, they’re gone. No follow-up, no explanation. It’s ghosting, but with a showy goodbye.

Inspired by the street artist Banksy

Inspired by the elusive street artist Banksy, Banksying describes the act of suddenly disappearing from someone’s life, often a romantic partner’s, without any warning. Much like how Banksy’s artworks appear overnight and vanish just as quickly, this trend adds a dramatic flair to the usual ghosting.The term gained popularity online as people noticed similarities between sudden relationship exits and the way Banksy quietly disappears without a trace.

Dodging emotional responsibility

Amy Chan, a dating coach was quotes in news reports stating that Banskying has been happening for a while − it just has a trendy name now. “Banksying happens more now, especially with the proliferation of dating apps, where people have developed poor dating etiquette,” Chan says, adding, “The person withdrawing gets the ability to process the breakup on their own terms, before they hand the memo to the other person, who ends up being in total shock.

.. It shows a lack of emotional maturity and a way of dealing with conflict that is rooted in avoidance.”Aanchal Gupta Kalantri, a relationship expert, explains, “When you Banksy someone, you show complete disregard for their feelings, their emotions, and how they view the relationship in that moment. It means you’ve taken your own time to move on, and then you suddenly leave them blindsided, with no thought for how such an abrupt exit might affect them.”She adds, "Silently moving on and then vanishing without warning is unfair. Clear communication is essential. Ending a relationship should involve honesty and respect, giving the other person the dignity of a proper conversation and explanation."